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The Refined Pro Theme is one of my favorites as far as feminine blog design goes. I fell in love with it and decided to put a tutorial together to teach my blogging clients how to build a Lifestyle blog on WordPress using the Refined Theme.

WordPress Websites
We Build Them, You Own Them
Register a Doman Name

I register my domains at GoDaddy. Choose a domain that is short and memorable if possible and choose a .com extension. If you ever decide to flip your domain or sell the domain, 2 words are more valuable as a general rule.
Install WordPress
If you haven’t already done so, you’ll want to install WordPress. I like WP Engine. It provides the WordPress Content Management System and web hosting for one low monthly plan.

I suggest WP Engines Smart Plugin Manager upgrade with your hosting if you aren’t going to be in your website frequently to update your plugins. It’s easy to update, and bloggers forget.
Once you install WordPress at WP Engine, you can choose to purchase the Refined Theme and add it to your blog.
You can also point your domain to your blog. Here is a video tutorial on this process.
Install Your Theme
Purchase Refined Theme.
Log Into WordPress
Your WebHost will provide a unique link for you to log into. This is typically an address that looks like [yourwebsitename.com/wp-login].
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You can change the password they gave you, but do make sure it’s a very secure password and that you save it.
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Notice the WordPress Dashboard
When you see the “At A Glance” message that WordPress provides offering a sample post, a comment preview, and a “dummy” page you’ll know that you have reached the WordPress dashboard.

This is customizable.
I’ll be honest and say I don’t do much with the dashboard myself. I’m usually finding what I need in the left or top column.
Remove Plugins
Find the word ‘Plugins’ in the left column. If your WordPress system came with any default Plugins other than the host plugin, you can go ahead and delete those.

I’m going to advise Plugins for you based on your blogging goals. You’ll also gain Plugins in our Refined Theme upload.
Plugins add functionality to your website.
They are often free with premium upgrades. They also need to be updated on a regular basis as they can make your website vulnerable to hackers.
I suggest WP Engines Smart Plugin Manager upgrade with your hosting if you aren’t going to be in your website frequently to update your plugins. It’s easy to update, and bloggers forget.
To remove a plugin, you can first deactivate it, and then delete it.
Select Your Permalink Structure
From the left hand column, find settings, then choose permalinks, then make sure post name is selected. This is the most popular choice today for short, simple, keyword friendly domain names. Once you set this, don’t change it.

Set your General Settings
- Site Title: 50-60 Characters. This is displayed on your blog usually in the header and is the website name shown on the search engines
- Tagline: This is sometimes displayed on a Website and by Google in the snippet on a search engine results page
- Timezone, Date, Domain Name, etc. should all be filled in.
Install The Theme
- Upload the Genesis Framework first. In the left column, go to appearance -> themes -> Add New -> Upload Theme. Choose the .zip file without unpacking it. Once it uploads, click Activate
- Repeat this step with the .zip file containing the Refined Theme.
Install The Plugins
The Refined Theme loads the following plugins. Some, you may keep if you think you’ll use them, others you can deactivate and remove if you aren’t going to keep them.
Remember, plugins can bloat your website and slow down the page speed so only use the ones you find valuable.
Genesis eNews Extended
This plugin provides the widget used throughout your website to gain subscribers. I use Convertkit on my blogs and KEAP or my training company.
Video Tutorials
SIMPLE SOCIAL ICONS
Customize social icons that are displayed on your website. Choose the social profiles they link to and select from various colors and sizes. Change the alignment easily to display on your Genesis Child Theme.
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Ninja Forms
Ninja Forms is a very popular form tool for WordPress. While the original plugin is free, you’ll find upgrade features robust.
The upgraded Single Site provides:
- Layout & Styles
- Conditional Logic
- File Uploads
- Multi-Part Forms
- Integrations with your favorite email autoresponder
- The ability to accept payments with Paypal Express
- 20% off additional add ons
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Soliloquy Responsive Slider
Soliloquy is a WordPress slider plugin that is very popular for adding sliders to a WordPress website. Soliloquy was designed to adapt to the workflow of WordPress users to reduce the bloat that is created by sliders. It’s optimized for speed and usability.
There is a free version and a pro version.
The pro version of Soliloquy slider includes powerful features like:
- Featured Content Slider – Create sliders based on blog posts, pages, products, testimonials, and any custom post type.
- WooCommerce Slider – Create beautiful product sliders for your WooCommerce store.
- Instagram Slider – Import images from Instagram into your WordPress slider.
- PDF Slider – Create responsive sliders from your presentation slides and other PDF files.
- Schedule Slides – Easily schedule both sliders and individual slides to be displayed at specific days and times.
Get the Soliloquy Plugin
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